Sex With Emily

Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. 
With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why “The One” is a myth and what actually makes relationships last

How to turn obligatory sex into erotic collaboration

The secret to avoiding resentment before it ruins your connection


Show Notes:

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Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself.
Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate with your partner. When you’re always a top (the more dominant one during sex), how can you tell your partner that you’d like to bottom (be more submissive) occasionally? I walk you through that conversation. Finally, when your spouse has next to zero interest in sex, what now? I offer insights on changing your relationship patterns to experience mutual pleasure and compatibility.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

The secret to orgasming in any position (without wrecking your calves).

How to bring back the heat after a dry spell—without the pressure.

The power move that gets your partner to switch things up in bed.


Show Notes:

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When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. 
First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejaculation and why it happens. We also get into non-monogamy: when you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open up the relationship? Or is a different, deeper conversation needed? Finally, when you’re happily hooking up, how do you keep casual sex from turning into serious relationships?
In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.

How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.

 The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).


Show Notes:

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We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex.
First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool girl/guy who’s down for whatever (even when you’re actually not) and the super dominant, in-charge lover (even when you’re actually more submissive). Finally, I give you strategies to increase your sexual confidence and take all of your sexual anxiety questions.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why performative sex is killing your pleasure—and how to stop.

How to ditch “porn mode” and tap into real turn-ons.

 The secret to being fully present (and having better orgasms).


Show Notes:

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How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex, I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play.
First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent kink dynamics and ideas to make it even more exciting. Finally, we’re looking at Missionary, which I think we can all agree needs a kinky rebrand. I’ll give you ideas to make it more surprising and sexy.
In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to turn classic sex positions into kinky, pleasure-boosting experiences.

Why even small tweaks—like tempo and control—can make you kinkier than you think.

The secret to better orgasms in any position (hint: clitoral stimulation is key).


Show Notes:

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SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99)

The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure


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